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Successfully designing a kitchen while avoiding arguing with your partner

My partner and I disagree on few things but for some reason we have always argued about gas versus induction hobs. Weird right, but not so much of an issue when you rent and have no control over what is in the kitchen. But what do you do when you buy your own house and need to design the kitchen? Here’s our step-by-step guide to agreeing on a kitchen design you’ll both love-

Carefully selected vintage items and indoor plants work beautifully with this black plywood kitchen. Renovation by Absolute Project Management.

First, confirm your budget and timeline- 

  • This ensures you consider the right options for your budget from the start
  • The timeline also can provide focus (i.e. deadlines!) – see our article written for Houzz on preparing a timeline for your kitchen renovation here.

Next, consider practicalities:

  • What appliances should the kitchen contain- will these be new or existing, fitted or freestanding?
  • What will you need to store there? Kitchen utensils, crockery, books, misc. drawers, etc? Less is never more when it comes to storage!!
  • Are there constraints on the space- i.e. where’s the drainage, where are the doors/ windows/ can you extract fumes to the outside, is there a gas supply?
  • What activities will you need the kitchen to cater for- cooking, socialising, storage, washing, pet feeding stations etc.
  • List everyday tasks and most used items/ areas. Also note what could be improved in your existing kitchen- make sure that the new space is as convenient and practical as possible, so you don’t re-inherit old problems.
  • Confirm your key goal- are you more interested in achieving a practical space or a beautiful space (you can have both- but sometimes one comes first and you’ll need to compromise…)

Then style (aka the fun bit!)

  • A top tip is to gather some images which will clearly show your partner what you’re envisioning and help convince them of your ideas. Keep an open mind and be kind when giving your opinion.
  • Arrange to go to showrooms and view ranges/ get advice from specialists. Where possible, open the doors, check a large slab/ sample of the worktop you have in mind and make sure you’re happy with all the features on your ‘white goods’.
  • Get samples to view in your home- check them together and at different points in the day (to see how they look in different light). 
Minimalist kitchen styled by Absolute Project Management

What if you don’t agree?

  • Refer back to your budget, timeline and list of practicalities to see if this helps you decide
  • Discuss (patiently!) your opposing views to discover why your partner might like/ not like something- they may explain something you hadn’t considered which could sway your view.
  • Ask a specialist for advice or to suggest a compromise. (And don’t get family involved if it could lead to further arguments!)
  • Finally remember, just because one person cooks more often/ is paying more/ is organising the renovation- doesn’t mean the space isn’t still important to you both. 
Modern kitchen design styled by Absolute Project Management

What did we decide… Gas vs Induction?

I much prefer induction hobs for ease of control and how easy they are to clean. My partner had only ever used old electric hobs and therefore thought they were slow to heat up/ difficult to control. Our kitchen designer pointed out that induction hobs were also much more energy efficient than gas- something neither of us had considered. 

We were currently using a gas hob, but with encouragement, my partner tried cooking on a new induction hob and found he liked it. However, he found tapping the buttons to turn on and off annoying- I agreed, so we found an induction hob with a sliding control- which we both love!

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